One of the major things that hold many people back in life is what other people think and say about them. Especially if they care too much about their opinions.
The fear of being judged by others often hinders your decision making.
Peoples reactions may often dictate whether or not you decide to make changes in your life.
Caring about what other people think about what you do in a healthy way can help you to gain valuable feedback and keep you grounded. But caring too much about what people may say or think if you do something can keep you in the same old rut, unable to move forward and to live the life you truly want to live.
It is possible to do what you want to do and still care about what others may say about you. Once you discover how to overcome this issue you will have complete freedom to do what you want.
Holding yourself back in life because of what other people may think or say does, in my experience, to a large part come from a belief that people care a great deal about what you are about to say or do. Perhaps you are afraid that people will laugh or analyze what you said or did for the rest of the week or year.
But a much more realistic scenario is that they have their hands full with worrying about their own lives and what people may think of them instead. This might make you feel less important in your own head. But it also sets you free a bit more if you'd like that.
To other people you are more than likely not the most important person in their world, it would probably be themselves or their family. So it would be foolish to think otherwise.
All people like to receive praise, it's nice. But it's not nice to jump around shouting aloud bragging about it.
In the same token with praise is negative criticism. If you view praise how I view it then you can take the negativity with grace and move on, thus allowing you to learn and grow from that experience.
Going about things this way can help you to not care too much about what other people think.
If a person is constantly negative about everything or makes personal attacks, which you think are about you, remember that things aren't always about you.
Such words or negative habits can be a way for that person to release pent up anger, frustration or jealousy about something in his or her own life. Or a way to reinforce that his or her viewpoint or belief is the right one. Or he or she may have habit of getting others involved emotionally - baiting them - to build a negative spiral, an argument or fight to get attention. It's about him or her. Not about something you did or want to do.
It is also nice to remember that once in a while everyone has a rotten day.
Sometimes people do have something to say of value. So it would be stupid to just stop care about what they say completely.
The fear of being judged by others often hinders your decision making.
Peoples reactions may often dictate whether or not you decide to make changes in your life.
Caring about what other people think about what you do in a healthy way can help you to gain valuable feedback and keep you grounded. But caring too much about what people may say or think if you do something can keep you in the same old rut, unable to move forward and to live the life you truly want to live.
It is possible to do what you want to do and still care about what others may say about you. Once you discover how to overcome this issue you will have complete freedom to do what you want.
Holding yourself back in life because of what other people may think or say does, in my experience, to a large part come from a belief that people care a great deal about what you are about to say or do. Perhaps you are afraid that people will laugh or analyze what you said or did for the rest of the week or year.
But a much more realistic scenario is that they have their hands full with worrying about their own lives and what people may think of them instead. This might make you feel less important in your own head. But it also sets you free a bit more if you'd like that.
To other people you are more than likely not the most important person in their world, it would probably be themselves or their family. So it would be foolish to think otherwise.
All people like to receive praise, it's nice. But it's not nice to jump around shouting aloud bragging about it.
In the same token with praise is negative criticism. If you view praise how I view it then you can take the negativity with grace and move on, thus allowing you to learn and grow from that experience.
Going about things this way can help you to not care too much about what other people think.
If a person is constantly negative about everything or makes personal attacks, which you think are about you, remember that things aren't always about you.
Such words or negative habits can be a way for that person to release pent up anger, frustration or jealousy about something in his or her own life. Or a way to reinforce that his or her viewpoint or belief is the right one. Or he or she may have habit of getting others involved emotionally - baiting them - to build a negative spiral, an argument or fight to get attention. It's about him or her. Not about something you did or want to do.
It is also nice to remember that once in a while everyone has a rotten day.
Sometimes people do have something to say of value. So it would be stupid to just stop care about what they say completely.
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This is just a small sample of ways to help you. Sometimes a simple picture can provide all the inspiration you need. Just remember to listen carefully to what people say about you.
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